This post makes my heart smile – by Sarah Mabry

This post makes my heart smile.

Less than a year ago we were the ones in the ER talking to Addiction Campuses to seek further help for John’s recovery. Fast forward 10 months and now he is speaking at one of Addiction Campuses’ centers about being in support of a life saving legislation for people struggling with mental health and substance abuse issues alongside Mississippi State Senator David Parker.

I am glad to see people speaking loudly for such a silent epidemic. Sobriety is a beautiful thing. 

– Sarah Mabry

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People with chronic pain are just lazy complainers

Have you ever felt like the struggles you’re going through are so unique that no one would understand you, even if you tried to explain them? And even if you could explain them, you don’t want to because it might make you seem weak, like you’re a complainer and not a fighter. I often feel like this with my chronic pain, but it’s not something I talk about much. Since my car accident, it has been difficult not to let my struggle become my identity, as I did for so long.

2- Hospital in College Station, Texas

When my severed nerve flairs up at night, I get an ingrown hair or a blister forms on my residual limb from my lower leg amputation my first reaction is to ignore and conceal the issue. All that does is cause more problems. So what happens when you actually let people know what’s going on with you? You might be surprised by people’s reactions.

Like many who battle with chronic pain and chronic illnesses, I attempt to minimize it to be seen as “normal.” I don’t want to be perceived as a complainer or lazy so I keep much of my pain to myself. When a particularly painful ingrown hair formed on my amputated limb recently I felt overwhelmed and depressed to the point of not wanting to get out of bed. Instead of keeping it to myself I opened up to Sarah to let her know about it.

Surprisingly, she didn’t roll her eyes in judgement or imply that I was worthless like my mind told me she would. Instead, she exercised compassion and patience and served as a voice of reason. See, I still wanted to ignore the problem and go workout. I mean, how can someone call an amputee who’s working out lazy, right? When the infected ingrown hair was causing me as much pain as it was, working out on it would have been just plain stupid. So not only did Sarah suggest that I not go workout, she encouraged me to take it extra easy that day and to keep my leg off as much as possible so that I didn’t continue to aggravate it. I experienced such mental and emotional relief to be validated and supported for being in pain. The hardest part was admitting to myself and someone else what I was going through at that particular moment.

When you’re dealing with any kind of chronic physical, mental or emotional issue you can’t merely stop fighting. Life is going to happen around you whether you like it or not. What this recent experience reminded me is that sometimes continuing to keep fighting means to surrender and ask for help or to simply let someone know what you’re struggling with. I strive not to let my chronic pain identify me as a victim or a complainer, but many days it’s just too overwhelming. Maybe the good side of it is that it allows me to identify as being a normal human being and, that possibly, I have been sent along this path to help someone else who is hurting. If this is you…KEEP FIGHTING!

People with chronic pain just complain, right?

Have you ever felt like the struggles you’re going through are so unique that no one would understand you, even if you tried to explain them? And even if you could explain them, you don’t want to because it might make you seem weak, like you’re a complainer and not a fighter. I often feel like this with my chronic pain, but it’s not something I talk about much. Since my car accident, it has been difficult not to let my struggle become my identity, as I did for so long.

2- Hospital in College Station, Texas

When my severed nerve fairs up at night, I get an ingrown hair or a blister forms on my residual limb from my lower leg amputation my first reaction is to ignore and conceal the issue. All that does is cause more problems. So what happens when you actually let people know what’s going on with you? You might be surprised by people’s reactions.

Like many who battle with chronic pain and chronic illnesses, I attempt to minimize it to be seen as “normal.” I don’t want to be perceived as a complainer or lazy so I keep much of my pain to myself. When a particularly painful ingrown hair formed on my amputated limb recently I felt overwhelmed and depressed to the point of not wanting to get out of bed. Instead of keeping it to myself I opened up to Sarah to let her know about it.

Surprisingly, she didn’t roll her eyes in judgement or imply that I was worthless like my mind told me she would. Instead, she exercised compassion and patience and served as a voice of reason. See, I still wanted to ignore the problem and go workout. I mean, how can someone call an amputee who’s working out lazy, right? When the infected ingrown hair was causing me as much pain as it was, working out on it would have been just plain stupid. So not only did Sarah suggest that I not go workout, she encouraged me to take it extra easy that day and to keep my leg off as much as possible so that I didn’t continue to aggravate it. I experienced such mental and emotional relief to be validated and supported for being in pain. The hardest part was admitting to myself and someone else what I was going through at that particular moment.

When you’re dealing with any kind of chronic physical, mental or emotional issue you can’t merely stop fighting. Life is going to happen around you whether you like it or not. What this recent experience reminded me is that sometimes continuing to keep fighting means to surrender and ask for help or to simply let someone know what you’re struggling with. I strive not to let my chronic pain identify me as a victim or a complainer, but many days it’s just too overwhelming. Maybe the good side of it is that it allows me to identify as being a normal human being and, that possibly, I have been sent along this path to help someone else who is hurting. If this is you…KEEP FIGHTING!

Effects of Addiction on Marriage & Family

This video clip we filmed depicts a reality all too familiar with marriages and families dealing with addiction. We rehearsed this in preparation for our upcoming scene next week in a major country music video. The song in the background of it is not the one we’re shooting the video for. If you or someone you know struggles with addiction, please reach out for help. You don’t have to go it alone. ‪#‎addiction‬ ‪#‎alcoholism‬ ‪#‎onedayatatime‬‪#‎letgoandletgod‬

How John’s leg was amputated

John Clint was born and raised in San Antonio, Texas. In 1996, he graduated high school where he was a varsity basketball player. Upon graduation, John attended Baylor University in pursuit to become a sports broadcaster. However, he found great success in a sales internship so he quickly switched his major in order to prepare for his budding career post graduation.

John Mabry accidentHis plans changed drastically when the unexpected happened. While traveling in a friends SUV, the right rear tire blew out causing the SUV to roll twelve times. John’s legs had been crushed from the impact. Those few seconds are eternally seared into John’s mind.

John said, “I literally envisioned the remaining seconds of my life as a scene from a 1920’s-style movie reel. However, instead of thinking my movie would end in true love and conquest, the reality was looking more like a conclusion of indescribable fear, terror, and pain.”

John Mabry accident           John Mabry amputee

Initially, John spent a total of four weeks in the hospital, undergoing fourteen operations. The most difficult challenges resulted from a massive open wound on the outside of his right foot. Initially, a “muscle flap: procedure was performed to save his limb from being amputated. Yet because of reoccurring infections, John was given two choices: another year of surgery and therapy with no guarantee of complete recover or to amputate his right leg below the knee. “Nothing can really prepare you for the moment when you first look down and see an empty space where your leg used to be. The thing that helped me the most was being able to talk to an amputee who showed me that life does go on after amputation. I proved it to myself when I walked across the stage to receive my B.A. in Communications six weeks later.”

John Clint Mabry Superbad         John Mabry amputee skydiving

John went on to obtain his Masters degree in Rehabilitation Counseling from San Diego State University and has devoted his life to meeting the needs of those enduring hardships in their lives. He married his beautiful wife, Sarah, has skydived, traveled all around the world, completed triathlons and CrossFit, and has appeared in such movies and TV shows as Superbad, NCISE.R.. JAG, and numerous commercials. He is also credited with inventing a revolutionary product for the prosthetics industry that allows thousands of amputees around the world to live healthier, more active lifestyles.

Today, John enjoys a slower pace of life helping to raise his three kids in Nashville, TN.

Mabry Living Sarah

You can follow John and his family’s continually unfolding story through the Mabry Living Facebook Page and the Mabry Living YouTube Channel.

John on the Hollywood set for "Over There"

John on the Hollywood set for “Over There”