Reconciling a Relapse by Redecorating

Our Mabry Living room has been a place where we have RE-corded many of our memories. There have been RE-actions to unforgettable moments like when we were RE-warded with healthy children and brought them home from the hospital. It is where we have RE-told joyous moments like seeing the kids scamper to the Christmas tree on Christmas morning. It’s here where we can RE-count funny moments like when we thought our dog ran off with a dirty diaper and ate the goods inside (he didn’t, thank goodness). And, there have been seemingly irREconcilable moments such as telling the kids that daddy is going to be gone for their birthdays and Christmas to seek help following a RE-lapse.

When John RE-gressed in his sobriety this time last year and RE-admitted into one of Addiction Campuses’ great facilities, called The Treehouse, I knew I had to stay strong for myself and my kids. It wasn’t a choice to crumble. I HAD to RE-evaluate new ways to keep finding HOPE and JOY. Art and creativity have always been things I’ve RE-turned to as therapeutic RE-leases. So, what better way to RE-kindle hope and joy than RE-decorating my family room with my artwork?

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I wanted to RE-create a room full of light, full of hope,full of encouragement and beaming with love. I started by painting my walls with a RE-freshing color, appropriately called RE-flection, by Sherwin Williams. This lightened the room drastically. With all the decorations down and new paint RE-applied to the walls, I had the blank canvas I needed to RE-create a new beginning for my room, but also for RE-newing my hope and RE-igniting my joy. It was time to RE-create, RE-fresh, RE-juvenate, RE-do and RE-claim ME through my creativity and love for decor.

While John RE-entered treatment, I spent time RE-evaluating “Sarah.”  I RE-cognize that through the busyness of raising three kids and the RE-occurance of addiction in our marriage, I often lose pieces of myself. To RE-engage with my innermost self, I RE-flected on these simple questions:

  1. What brings me JOY? Dogs, kids, art, family, nature
  2.  What brings me HOPE? Scripture, anything angel themed- white feathers, angel wings, halos, rainbows.
  3.  How would I describe my FAITH? RE-newing my trust in GOD when times are difficult and trying to obey his RE-direction of my continually unfolding life.
  4. What does the word LOVE mean to me? This is a very difficult one to RE-call when your world gets flipped upside down. I try to RE-member that, Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” 1  Corinthians 13:4-7

I wanted to RE-create an atmosphere that incorporated my answers to the above questions through RE-decorating. My goal  for this project was to RE-build and RE-store my broken spirit by RE-designing our Mabry Living room.

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  1. I created a cozy dog bed for my RE-scue pups by placing a sheep wool rug under our coffee table. I mixed and match pillow covers from Pottery Barn (sale rack of course).
  2. I RE-purposed a stick I found on a nature walk as a statement piece for my mantel. I decorated it by stringing multi colored beads from it. The teal green jar looks like beach glass. It RE-minds me of my summers spent hunting for colored glass “treasures” along Lake Michigan. My abstract painting was inspired from the Michigan beach where I spend my summers, which I often call, “Heaven on Earth”. Can you tell I love Michigan beaches?!?
  3. I designed the LOVE sign to RE-mind me of the 1 Corinthians scripture.
  4. My angel feather painting allows me to RE-call that God’s angels are always watching over me. I RE-placed our old entertainment center with one from Wayfair.com.
  5. I REad the following quote and knew I had to make an arrow themed piece of work: “An arrow can only be shot by pulling it backward. When life is dragging you back with difficulties, it means it’s going to launch you into something great. So just focus, and keep aiming.” This quote RE-news my HOPE for better times ahead.
  6. Canvas painting with a family rule: “As for  me and my house, we will serve the LORD.”Joshua 24:15. I found this piece at Hobby Lobby. I RE-placed the mirror with mirrors from Ballard Design.
  7.  Angel candle holders from John’s grandmother, plus a picture of Michigan that says, “Happy Place,” very fitting.
  8. I added a shell covered end table (Home Goods), an ottoman (West Elm), and changed out our old rug for a new jute rug (Wayfair.com).
  9. I found these angel wings at Hobby Lobby. They were turquoise but I RE-painted them white.

Now for the fun part, BEFORE and AFTER pictures. Who doesn’t love RE-decorating transformation pictures??

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Like RE-making an old, darker room light again, we have the ability to chose to RE-invent ourselves. If these walls could talk, my HOPE is that they would tell you a story of continued RE-commitment, RE-demption and the RE-vival of a soul that has RE-ceived, through God’s grace, the willingness to RE-main open to RE-conciling a marriage following RE-lapse.

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Extreme Makeover: Mabry Edition

Don’t miss the behind-the-scenes video footage on the

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I previously blogged before how I am working on finding the inner ‘Selfish Sarah’ and trying to find time to discover new ways to pamper myself. As a mom of three little kids, it is difficult to find the time to fix myself up. So, while rushing to get ready yesterday morning an insane idea popped into my head.  What if I, Selfish Sarah, had a glam squad of my own for one day to transform my tired, worn-out self into a stunning showpiece that is worthy of walking the red carpet at the Oscars. Then I saw the producers of Extreme Makeover: Mabry Edition were casting a dilapidated soccer mom to makeover. I submitted my video application and guess what? They chose ME for their next makeover!

It wouldn’t be a makeover show without a before picture, right? Well, here I am.

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Jean Clint fired up The Imposteurs with a little pep rally, complete with jazz hands, spirit fingers and some spit that kept flying out of his mouth. He said the spit thing was normal and was socially acceptable in Europe.
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Fashion designer for the stars, Öestin, raided my closet and hand picked this stunning ensemble. He delicately paired a long cotton maroon skirt with an American Indian-inspired beaded waist line with a silky floral dress. Then he accessorized it with a daring necklace, beaded bracelets and a precious pair of brown dangling earrings. But here’s the kicker, he topped it all off with a pair of black velvet stilettos. I mean, who knows to do that? It was a marvelous cornucopia of styles and colors that only the great Öestin could have selected just for me.

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Öestin demands that his client’s nails perfectly compliment his chic ensemble. So he picked crimson red for my left hand and an authentic Santa Fe-colored turquoise for my right. Öestin is the assistant to Larsón so Larsón felt it was his duty to oversee Öestin’s craftsmanship.

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Onto makeup:

Larsón said he spent years perfecting trade secrets that he chooses to share with only a select few in his inner circle. Some of his makeup artistry is even used by performers globally in Cirque Du Soliel. I could hardly wait to see how I was going to look!

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My makeover culminated with Jean Clint himself designing my hair using state-of-the-art techniques only few people have the luxury of experiencing. If I recall, he used a TON of dry shampoo spray to fluff, curl, clamp and then reverse clamp my hair. A technique I wasn’t familiar with until now. With an emphatic half up disheveled up-do, my new kind of BEAUTIFUL was coming to life.

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VOILA!

What do you think? I think he did A-M-A-zing! I can’t describe to you how radiant I feel now. This experience has taken years off my life. I can confidently look in my mirror and say, “DARN, I look GOOODD!”

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Not only did I transform on the outside but the bigger transformation happened internally. I want to give a big THANK YOU to The Imposteurs for giving me the courage to proudly claim my new own kind of BEAUTIFUL. Move over Emma Stone and Reese Whitherspoon. Here I come!

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Honestly, my hope is that this experience not only made you laugh but helped you remember to love who you were created to be. The lesson here is to wear your identity, your true identity, with confidence. Be your own kind of beautiful. Don’t be so concerned with what others think of you from the outside. They aren’t the ones waking up in your skin everyday. So stay true to yourself and don’t let what others say dictate how or why you live your life. You only live once so don’t waste time doing things someone else’s way.

Check out the video footage from Extreme Makeover: Mabry Edition on the one and only Mabryliving You Tube Channel.

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