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My Top 5 Go-To Memos For Keeping Our Marriage Alive and Thriving

Marriage is a complicated creation.  Two lives with different backgrounds join together to become one.  This just sounds like a recipe for disaster.  It’s no wonder divorce rate is as high as it is these days!  In the past, I thought our marriage was going to be one that could have raised the divorce rate just a little higher.  With addiction invading our marriage for the first ten or so years it is quite a miracle that John and I still stand united as of today.  To read more about our testimony click here.

 With our 11th anniversary approaching next week, I thought I would take the time to make a list of the top 5 things I have clung to during this crazy ride called Marriage.

 1. FOCUS ON THE POSITIVES:

Always focus on the good things within the marriage…even if they are few and far between.  Focus on the reasons you originally fell in love with your spouse and seek those characteristics out.

 2. REMEMBER THOSE VOWS?:

“For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part…” That is a BIG commitment!  Would you still love your spouse if he was worse, poor, and sick? Commit (unless you are in danger) and love your spouse like Christ loves you.

 3. DON’T FORGET TO WATER YOUR GRASS:

The grass is greener where you water it.  Invest in your marriage in good and bad times.  Remember, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

  4. TRY ON THEIR SHOES:

Be empathetic.  Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes to help understand their views better.  Understanding their situation makes it easier to show love to your spouse.

 5. HAVE A SHORT TERM MEMORY:

Forgive and forget the bad.  Free yourself from past disappointments and focus on what the future may hold. Apologize often.

I know I said “Top 5” but here is a bonus tip for you:1536669_10152383625704845_6208178421854409353_n

6.  HAVE FUN AND LAUGH OFTEN!:

NEVER EVER stop dating one another. Do you really want to become that boring old predictable married couple? Start creating those laugh line wrinkles now so you have proof of a happy life when you are old.

May your marriage be blessed with laughter, joy, and LOVE!

Hugs, Sarah

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Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

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